Who is the Glammy Grammy?

It‘s been my observation that change is the only true constant in life. Good times, bad times and sad times, they all converge to create the identity and perspective of a person. Certainly this has been the case in my life. The sum total of these experiences has created the person I am today (see photos below).

Of course the question of age naturally arises. In the truest sense of an experienced and seasoned mother and grammy, I would say that I’ve lived long enough to savor the joys and pains of motherhood and marriage and have matured into a woman sufficiently wise to relish the thrill of watching my children have children. I married early, had my children early and have had the great pleasure of watching them grow into mature, responsible adults. All are in the 30ish age bracket plus or minus two to three years.

My working years outside of the home provided the opportunity to work in the business side of the health care industry for 15 years. Interesting and always evolving is how I would describe those years. The intense national debate over the future of health insurance is of particular interest to me. Most assuredly, the great constant of change will enter into this industry again, regardless of the outcome of the current debate.

Prior to my years in the health care industry I had the privilege of being a full time mother, involved in every aspect of my children’s lives. What a true gift to be able to focus my attention on them in those early years. Influencing and guiding them, encouraging them to develop their gifts and talents while also allowing them to experience the sadness and pain that comes with the disappointment when those experiences don’t unfold as we had hoped. My heart would soar with joy and feel crushing pain as I watched them grow. Any mother reading my words knows exactly the emotions I am describing.

My first marriage lasted 17 years. I spent the next few years as a single mom, working 3 jobs to take care of my children. Then one beautiful March day my very own Prince Charming walked into my life. We dated for a few years and have been happily married for the last 12. The pain associated with the loss of a long time relationship along with the joy in my life today have given me a heightened understanding of the necessity for loving and forgiving. Our blended family has given me a new perspective on relationships as we have almost every conceivable combination within our immediate family, ex husbands and wives, and step children (a better term is in order for “step children”; I am going to work on that). In all permutations of these relationships it always comes down to mutual respect, understanding, patience, and the realization that someone is likely experiencing emotions that are new to them, probably uncomfortable and possibly painful. Love unconditionally, forgive and see the love in the other person. These keys seem to help heal strained relationships.

I’ve always enjoyed beauty in my surroundings and what my husband refers to as “the finer things in life”. He’s right; I don’t require them but do enjoy them. I think most of us would admit to this if we’re completely honest. I also take great pleasure in creating experiences and memories for my family that are unique and bring smiles to their faces. Extending this same happiness and sense of “being someone special” to friends and guests in our home is, and always will be something that brings a smile to MY face! I was blessed with very gracious parents who emphasized that there was “always room for one more at the table”. Not only did they “encourage” us to share in the material sense but to take the time to recognize, appreciate and acknowledge the gifts and contributions of those around us regardless of how great or minimal they may seem.

For me, life comes down to family, home and friends and creating experiences that enhance their lives (and mine) by drawing upon the things I love. And now these darling grandchildren have given me a reason to experience a love that is different than anything I have known before. I want to do my part to instill in them love and respect of others and thereby of themselves, to help them grow into highly functioning, responsible, caring and loving adults. Last but certainly not least, I want to be there to listen to and encourage their dreams. Along the way I’m sure we’ll have a grand time because this Glammy Grammy’s just a little bit sassy too!! Really, who better to do this than a Glammy Grammy? As my daughter in law is fond of saying “come along” and share in the attitude, choice and lifestyle that comes with being a Glammy Grammy. I know we’ll have fun and like the song says “Girls just want to have fun!”